27 SEPT 2018
How to Ask a Flight Attendant Out
Be On Your Best Behaviour During Boarding
Believe it or not, we’re all super aware during boarding and communicate with each other nonstop. It’s actually one of the most hectic times during our shift.
Doing what, you ask? We’re visually scanning passengers, observing their behaviour (good and bad), trying to close overhead bins, rearranging pissy passengers that didn’t choose their seats ahead of time, and answering a million questions (i.e: I ordered a gluten free meal… do you have it? I’m a vegetarian and forgot to order a vegetarian meal, what do you have that’s vegetarian? What terminal do we land in? Am I going to make my connecting flight? Do I need to check in my bags and go through security for my connection?) …while serving drinks in first class, making announcements, and communicating with pilots, gate agents/ flight engineers/passengers/& each other!
When you come in with a smile and good attitude, we’ll take a mental note of “that kind gentleman” during boarding. If you’re attractive, we’ll remember where you’re sitting and might even gush to our colleagues about you.
If you do happen to ask us a question as we walk by, ask us how we are doing. No one ever asks! This will ensure that you stand out in a good way and we’ll remember you
forever for the remainder of this sector.
Remember those magic words that you learned in kindergarten? Saying please & thank you goes a loooong way. You’ll be surprised at how often people forget their manners when they fly.
No, we are not expecting you to do our job. I do however, really appreciate passengers that are kind enough to lend me a hand when I need it. If I’m having difficulty reaching or closing something, or unable to get the attention of your neighbour, this is your opportunity to step up and help out! When someone goes out of their way to give me a hand, I’m more inclined to do everything I possibly can to ensure them a safe & pleasant journey… and chat & get to know them on a more personal level.
Come Visit Us In The Galley
If we’re not busy, stop by the galley and say hi (only if the seatbelt signs are off)! If you’re shy, you can get up and “use the lav”, ask for a glass of water, or “stretch your legs”. Just don’t ask us where the washroom is — we may or may not look at you like you have 6 heads. We love a good conversation, and we love passengers that are super friendly. Please for the love of god, don’t do this during service or boarding.
Build A Connection
Don’t be a boring conversationalist. Ask questions. Better yet, ask original questions. Sure, you can start off with the basics like “how long are you in _______ for? What are your plans?” But don’t forget to be proactive and actually ask us out for dinner or drinks! If you do end up bonding over commonalities, interests, sightseeing, and college majors/past jobs, ask to connect with us via LinkedIn or Instagram.
Dinner Date @ Mash - Copenhagen
How To Exchange Numbers
I can’t tell you how many guys come into the galley with great conversations! Most of them don’t have business cards on them. If they do have one, it’s generally in their wallets, stowed somewhere inconveniently far. If you have intentions of fraternizing with your cabin crew or seat mates, it may be wise to keep an extra one in your pocket — just in case! If you don’t have a business card, come prepared with your phone. We’re technically not allowed to use our phones during the entire duration of our shift.
Keep in mind that this is a job to us, so please try to be respectful and professional! It would be best to exchange numbers discreetly. Discreetly = not in front of other colleagues and definitely not in front of other passengers, or airport staff member.
How NOT To Ask Your Flight Attendant Out
Hitting your call light every 7 minutes on a 10hr flight won’t fly. We can and will disable your call light. This passenger also asked for additional things after I delivered each request/item, making me walk back and forth to him, nonstop!! I had my (male) colleague pay him a visit after a certain number of requests — he got the message and never bothered me for the rest of the flight.
Harass Me… Said No One Ever!
Grab my bum as I walk by. If you get lucky, we very well may have you arrested at the jet-bridge upon landing!
I once had a passenger shout “Damnnnn she is TINYYYY and cute!” while I was closing overhead bins. It was obnoxious and drew unwanted attention. I’ll be sure to spend the remainder of the flight avoiding you and not making eye contact.
Write Your Number On A Napkin
Whether I’m interested or not, I always smile and say “Aww, thank you so much!” and accept it. Chances are, I’ll put it in my pocket, wash it, and well… there you go!