05 OCT 2018
How to Date a Flight Attendant/Cabin Crew/Stewardess
Congratulations! You’re dating someone in aviation. You must have done something right, and I’m sure you’re a catch, yourself. If you followed my “How to Ask a Flight Attendant out” in my previous post, I really hope it lead to something more than just a friendly chat or a few cocktails. If you’re here to see what it’s really like to date a flight attendant, you might discover that it’s relatively difficult. Dating itself is not fun and games 24/7, but here are some realistic expectations whilst dating cabin crew, pilot, or anyone in aviation.
Follow these steps to ensure a happy relationship:
Let Her Sleep
I mean truly allow your woman to sleep for hours and hours on end. Whether it’s throughout the day, throughout the night, whenever… Let her sleep without feeling bad. We have no circadian rhythm and we’re most likely exhausted AF after a trip. I personally sleep anywhere from 12-15hrs after a trip. That also means no rude comments about waking up at 7pm. Same goes for eating at weird hours or craving for dinner items during breakfast, and breakfast items during dinner.
We’ve all heard it before… “There’s no love without trust.” Crew members are not exempt from this. When your charming crew member doesn’t answer your text messages for hours on end, please take this into consideration:
- There is a delay, she checked her phone while taxiing, can’t respond in front of colleagues/passengers (pax) or lost signal… yes, lost signal for 12+ hours. Yes, there is wifi onboard, and NO we don’t always feel like purchasing it. Sorry!
- She is sleeping. Flight attendants need to sleep before or after a shift? Who would have thought?! Pleaseee don’t even think about accusing them of cheating just because they aren’t answering their phones. After a 3hr drive to the airport, working an international red eye, and dealing with jet lag, she very well may be catching up on some zZz’s. I can’t speak for others, but I must say that I am 100% not concerned with answering messages or FaceTime calls during my recuperation period. Soo… Please, no accusations when she isn’t constantly replying or missed all of your calls. If you have your doubts or insecurities, talk them out like a mature adult… in person (preferably when one is not jet lagged).
Be Considerate // Be Stable
Days off are limited. No last minute plans. No flaking. We’re too tired for your mind games. We also don’t want to be your maid/babysitter/therapist when we get back home — keep the place clean, avoid drama, and try to make us comfortable when we’re back. Bonus points: Have the fridge stocked with our favourite foods and beverages.
Sometimes, we have standby days. Sometimes, we have standby callouts… with a 90 minute heads up to get to the airport. We could literally be anywhere in the world, so please forgive us if we must leave during a date. Of course, communication is key. I like to say something along the lines of “We can hang out… but I’m on standby, which means that I can be anywhere in the world with 90 minutes notice… and I also can’t drink today!”
Get a Passport
Be worldly. Be affable. Be socially and culturally aware. Have a sense of adventure and the desire to see the world. Be willing to learn, and be prepared for last minute holidays.
Favourite Hilton in The Caribbeans — you can’t see, but the ocean is to my left!
If you’re currently dating someone in aviation, I want to know all about it! Did you find these tips useful? Was there anything that I missed? Please share 🙂 If you’re interested in dating a stewardess, pilot, or any other aviation professional, I hope I have shed some light on what it’s like to date us!